Aimee Baron

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Five sentences about me…

I'm a pediatrician by training but was compelled to do this work after my own personal journey with secondary infertility and multiple miscarriages. I worked in the Jewish pregnancy loss space first and then created @iwassupposedtohaveababy as a way to bring comfort and support to anyone in this community who was struggling. I'm passionate about making people feel seen, heard, and validated. I'm also devoted to my family, self-care, gooey chocolate babka, a good book, and my treadmill. And I love to connect with others in this community and make this space feel a little smaller and more warm.

One thing I wish I knew going into my fertility journey...

That it was going to take a really, really, really, really, really, really long time, and I would suffer for years, but that I would have a happy ending. The uncertainty is what was so heartbreaking.

One thing about me that is forever changed because of my fertility journey...

The way I relate to anyone who is suffering. I am forever changed, and I don't judge anymore.

One funny moment or anecdote from my fertility journey...

My husband telling me that he had it worse because I only had to get up at the crack of dawn for umpteen days, shoot myself up with drugs, go through all the crazy hormonal and physical changes and withstand multiple procedures. He had to ejaculate in a cup in a cold, damp, small room in the RE's office where thousands of men sat in the same chair. He said it was awful and the least sexy thing possible. It was so hard to perform. (all this was tongue in cheek - you'd have to know my husband to understand that he said this with dripping sarcasm)

One product, practice, or ritual I adopted during my fertility journey, which I have/have not kept a part of my life...

There is a concept in Judaism about when you pray for others, you will receive the blessing that you were wishing for someone else. I prayed daily for a list of people who I knew were struggling to have a child while I was on this journey. And while I don't do that anymore, I do pray for this whole community/my community when I light Shabbat candles each week (said to be an auspicious time to pray), and when I dip in the ritual bath (another auspicious time)